David Lee

Notes and Musings for Friday, August 13, 2010

1.) The heat and humidity on certain days seems to get the best of me. I’m lethargic and don’t really feel like doing much of anything. To compound the problem, it seems that I have an even harder time getting to sleep after the hottest of days.

2.) Teacher workdays for the 2010-2011 school year begin this upcoming week. For the first time in thirty years, I won’t be going back to work. Thus far retirement has not been much different from any other school year. I’m thinking come that first teacher workday and then again the first student day, all that will change. I do have glimpses of the retired life, but as of right now it really hasn’t sunk in quite yet.

3.) Tomorrow I will be working with the children of inmates at the Alexander County Max. Security prison. I will be doing the story and I’ve picked the “Fourth Man in the Fire” as my text. We do a session in the a.m. and then another in the p.m. I’m looking forward to being a “teacher” again.

4.) I’m going to take my 1960 Buick to the Soldiers’ Reunion Car Show on Sunday afternoon. It will be the first time I’ve put her on display. I’m also planning on taking her to the Brookford Car Show on the 28th. I may be taking the Chevy Pick-Up as well, but at this time am not sure.

5.) Question of the Day: Why is it that I buy so many books, but so very rarely read their entire contents?

David Lee

So I was talking to someone this morning and she was all upset because something she had said had angered someone else. This person was so upset with what the other person had said that she had resigned from an organization. Now I know you are going to want to know, “What exactly did she say?” But my point in telling this story is to relate how I feel when it comes to handling other people’s emotions.

Now I will be the first to admit I say and do things that I shouldn’t. Sometimes I realize it at the time I’m doing it, then again sometimes it takes me a while to think about what I said or did. There are also those instances in which we have said or done something that was not meant to be offensive, but someone may have taken it that way.

When I realize that I’ve said or done something wrong, I need to make amends to those people as soon as possible. We need to be humble enough to admit we’ve erred and ask for forgiveness. That person may forgive us then and there, perhaps after a period of time, and in some cases not at all. At that point, I’ve done what I have to do and can do nothing more.

What someone chooses to do with my apology is completely up to him/her. Whether that person chooses to forgive or not is completely his/her choice, not mine. I need to detach myself from the fact that the person in question harbors resentment and unforgiveness. That is their choice, not mine.

My friend this morning was “playing the tape” of what she had said over and over in her mind. She never intended for the comment to be taken the wrong way and it wasn’t intended to hurt anyone, but someone took offense. I told my friend that she needed to quit beating up on herself,,, she had done what she should have done and should not belabor the point.

I am not responsible for anyone’s feelings but my own. The fastest way for me too lose my serenity is to try to get someone to feel a certain way about something. They have the right to feel however they like, whether it’s pouting, staying angry, or self pity. I can’t hold myself responsible for what they choose to do with my apology.

David Lee

One of those things that we’re taught growing up is that we always need to tell the truth – always need to be honest with others. As you grow older and life throws its challenges your way, this is a way of living that becomes even more important. What sometimes seems to be common sense can alleviate a lot of the pain that life can hold.

I feel sometimes like I’ve got to be a “people pleaser.” By this I mean that I want you to like me and will most of the times say what I think it is you’d like to hear. But I’ve found it’s of utmost importance to feel in your heart that what you’re saying is what is true and real. We serve no great purpose by staying on the fringes of what we feel is the truth.

Wanting to be liked and accepted is something all humans share. But we can’t base our lives on saying and doing things that others will approve of at the cost of our own integrity. There are tactful ways to tell someone what your truth is in a situation, but many times we can find ourselves sugarcoating or selectively omitting what really needs to be said or done.

Today I will direct my thinking to carefully weigh what I say or do to make sure it represents what I feel is the truth. I will make every effort to say what needs to be said and keep it mind it may not be what someone wants to hear. The bottom line is that that practice is what’s best for everyone involved.

David Lee

“Being impeccable with your word is the correct use of your energy; it means to use your energy in the direction of truth and love for yourself. If you make an agreement with yourself to be impeccable with your word, just with that intention, the truth will manifest itself through you…” – The Four Agreements by Don Ruiz

I cannot always tell what the future holds,
My mind has a limited view.

I know that God keeps me near His heart
In all I say and do.

He has brought me down a twisted road
And has His eyes upon me, though my insights be numbered few.

I pray this day to do His will and walk the path He would have me take;
My God is the great composer and His light will be ever so great.

The following is the second of poems I found in newspaper clippings found in my great grandparents’ Bible:

When Mama was a Little Girl – by James Buckham

When mama was a little girl,
The children were so good – dear me!
They always did what they were told,
And kept as clean as clean could be.

You never saw them running off
Where they were ordered not to play,
Nor heard them use a naughty word,
As we bad children do to-day.

They went to church and Sunday-school
With willing feet and faces bright,
And helped their parents, oh! so much,
And dropped to sleep like birds at night.

They never quarreled over toys,
Nor scratched, nor pushed, my mama says,
Nor twisted pussy’s squirming tail,
Nor had such fretful, teasing ways.

Oh, dear! I sit and wonder why
Those gone-by children did no wrong.
How human nature must have changed
In not so very, very long!

I really wonder if mama
Remembers all she used to do
When she was young? – for grandmama
Seems just as used to spanking too!

The following is a poem that was found in a clipping from a newspaper. The clipping was in a Bible that belonged to my great grandparents and I liked it so much I thought I would share it:

Freddy’s Questions – a poem by Mabel Matson

You say that God is here upon our earth
And up in heaven too,
You tell me He is everywhere at once –
Oh, how can it be true?

Are the bright sunny skies of blue His smile,
And the dark skies His frown?
And does He ride upon the thunder clouds,
And send the lightning down?

Do you supposed that they are just His voice,
The whispering winds that blow?
And does He watch beside our little brook,
To see the violets grow?

I wonder if He walks upon the seas,
To steer the ships aright;
And if He guides the wandering honey bees,
And brings them home at night?

Does He know every little bird by name
That flits from tree to tree?
Does He care for each one of them and does
He care for you and me?

Does He watch o’er us through the long dark nights,
And are you sure ‘tis true
He always knows if we do right or wrong
I wish I really knew.

Patience, tolerance, and acceptance are three principles that I have to work on each and every day. The world today moves at a break-neck pace and sometimes I forget that everyone has their own rate of speed with which to do things. It’s not really up to me to tell other’s how or at what pace they should be doing something. I need to accept that things are exactly the way they are supposed to be and are under God’s control.

As a teacher of twelve and thirteen year olds, I’ve over the years developed a high level of patience. But there still remain those days when I can get really frustrated with someone and have a hard time dealing with it. I’ve been known to say during the school day, “Jesus, please help me.” And when I do that, I’m not casually throwing those words out there. I actually do need his guidance to lead me to do what He would have me to do.

I have to accept that everyone is not as I think they should be… I don’t know what’s best always for myself, so why would I think I would know what’s best for anyone else? Others are usually doing what they think best at any particular point in time and it’s not always for me to dictate how or if they should change what they’re doing.

Above all else, I also have to be patient, tolerant, and accepting of myself. I can be rougher on myself that I would ever allow anyone else to be. It’s the nature of the beast to want to do out best, but we’re not looking at spiritual perfection, but instead are depending on progress we slowly begin to see.

David Lee